How to balance trusting your partner with having their back

I was sitting on the couch watching Dave awkwardly pulling two bottles out from the liquor cabinet to reach for one behind. Our floors are ceramic. All I could see was the two bottles slipping from his hands and exploding onto the floor. It is clearly my superpower to see these events happening. Melissa: Would … Continue reading How to balance trusting your partner with having their back

Trust and reassurance: opposing needs in conversation?

The following is a pretty classic conversation my husband Dave and I would have a couple of years ago as we would get into the car: Melissa: Do you know where we are going? Dave: Of course I know where we are going. M: Did you get directions? D: Yep, I got directions. That's how … Continue reading Trust and reassurance: opposing needs in conversation?

Are you missing out on an opportunity for awesomeness?

For many mornings Dave and I had a version of the following conversation. Dave <pulling open the door open of the fridge> “Are you going to eat the leftover chicken for lunch?” Melissa <sitting at the kitchen table, in my bushy brown robe, glasses and pyjamas pen in hand drinking my morning tea> “Maybe”. Dave … Continue reading Are you missing out on an opportunity for awesomeness?

Could mm-hmm change your conversations?

About two years ago, my now husband Dave and I were having the following conversation* ... a lot: Me: Why aren’t you listening to me? Dave: I AM listening to you. M: It doesn’t seem like you are listening to me. D: But I am. M: You are staring at your computer and it doesn’t … Continue reading Could mm-hmm change your conversations?

Tenets for living well

Here is the list of tenets that I came up with while I was reading the The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin. Don't gossip Be specific Just leave it Pause before … Continue reading Tenets for living well