Trust and reassurance: opposing needs in conversation?

The following is a pretty classic conversation my husband Dave and I would have a couple of years ago as we would get into the car: Melissa: Do you know where we are going? Dave: Of course I know where we are going. M: Did you get directions? D: Yep, I got directions. That's how … Continue reading Trust and reassurance: opposing needs in conversation?

Self IMPROVment: lessons learned from IMPROV class

When I started to talk to people about the improvisational theatre class that I was taking – they inevitably asked: Do they teach you how to be funny? Well, no, not really. It is mostly a series of games that you play that provide a framework to set creativity free and allow a scene to … Continue reading Self IMPROVment: lessons learned from IMPROV class

Are you missing out on an opportunity for awesomeness?

For many mornings Dave and I had a version of the following conversation. Dave <pulling open the door open of the fridge> “Are you going to eat the leftover chicken for lunch?” Melissa <sitting at the kitchen table, in my bushy brown robe, glasses and pyjamas pen in hand drinking my morning tea> “Maybe”. Dave … Continue reading Are you missing out on an opportunity for awesomeness?

Is it possible to appreciate the beauty that is generated from our flaws?

I have to admit the orchid’s crawly, spidery, root systems creep me out. I turn my eyes away from the roots to their delicate blooms. Orchids seem to happily accept their flaws, knowing that they are the source of their beauty. Oh Nature. You're so smart. How have your flaws helped you grow? Ps – … Continue reading Is it possible to appreciate the beauty that is generated from our flaws?

Can understanding regret shape better decision-making?

I was shocked one summer when my neighbor Bill* suddenly came to me to ask me to return to my babysitting job that I had held with them for 4 previous summers because his wife Natalie* had cancer. While considering the decision, I felt selfish for not wanting to give up the ideal summer job … Continue reading Can understanding regret shape better decision-making?

Could mm-hmm change your conversations?

About two years ago, my now husband Dave and I were having the following conversation* ... a lot: Me: Why aren’t you listening to me? Dave: I AM listening to you. M: It doesn’t seem like you are listening to me. D: But I am. M: You are staring at your computer and it doesn’t … Continue reading Could mm-hmm change your conversations?

Should we take time to focus on fancy problems?

I mentioned to my mom that I was reading Self Matters by Dr. Phil after a big break up in 2007. I felt a little guilty about my pursuit for self-help because I sensed that she felt slighted. “But you are doing great – why would you need to read a self-help book?” she said. … Continue reading Should we take time to focus on fancy problems?

Tenets for living well

Here is the list of tenets that I came up with while I was reading the The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin. Don't gossip Be specific Just leave it Pause before … Continue reading Tenets for living well

How to cultivate happiness – what I learned from Gretchen Rubin

It took me a long time to pick up the The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin because I feared it would be the book that I would have liked to have written.  When I first I saw the robin’s egg blue book in the book store at Mount Sinai Hospital in Toronto in 2009,  I … Continue reading How to cultivate happiness – what I learned from Gretchen Rubin

Do our personal devices fuel our egos?

This is probably not news but I have noticed lately that personal devices seem to be filling one of our human needs: to feel important. I was at a conference and there were disruptions of people during the talks of people getting up and leaving with their phones up to their ears. Something was taking … Continue reading Do our personal devices fuel our egos?