How to balance trusting your partner with having their back

I was sitting on the couch watching Dave awkwardly pulling two bottles out from the liquor cabinet to reach for one behind. Our floors are ceramic. All I could see was the two bottles slipping from his hands and exploding onto the floor. It is clearly my superpower to see these events happening. Melissa: Would … Continue reading How to balance trusting your partner with having their back

Trust and reassurance: opposing needs in conversation?

The following is a pretty classic conversation my husband Dave and I would have a couple of years ago as we would get into the car: Melissa: Do you know where we are going? Dave: Of course I know where we are going. M: Did you get directions? D: Yep, I got directions. That's how … Continue reading Trust and reassurance: opposing needs in conversation?

Self IMPROVment: lessons learned from IMPROV class

When I started to talk to people about the improvisational theatre class that I was taking – they inevitably asked: Do they teach you how to be funny? Well, no, not really. It is mostly a series of games that you play that provide a framework to set creativity free and allow a scene to … Continue reading Self IMPROVment: lessons learned from IMPROV class

Are you missing out on an opportunity for awesomeness?

For many mornings Dave and I had a version of the following conversation. Dave <pulling open the door open of the fridge> “Are you going to eat the leftover chicken for lunch?” Melissa <sitting at the kitchen table, in my bushy brown robe, glasses and pyjamas pen in hand drinking my morning tea> “Maybe”. Dave … Continue reading Are you missing out on an opportunity for awesomeness?