We all have strengths inside of us that are the true gem of who we are. Yes, you can develop your strengths, but there are also those strengths that have been with us from the very beginning. Some of us have a knack for polishing our gem and letting it shine. Some of us let it get dull and hide among the rubble. Some of us are so disconnected from our gem, that we have trouble finding it at all.
My gem was glimmering in grade 6 when I started to notice that my friends would come to me and just talk to me about something that was bothering them. “What should I do Melissa?” they would say. Sometimes I had an opinion about what they should do, and sometimes I didn’t. Sometimes just listening seemed to be enough.
Noticing this recurring role I had on the playground, led me to believe that maybe I should be a psychologist.
For some, this noticing leads to finding ways to polish a gem, let it gleam, and beautifully follow your dream at an early age. For others, like me, a path may be influenced by others or by practicalities or rational thinking that can be introduced in a variety of ways. I began to adopt thoughts like: be careful; you don’t want to listen to other people’s problems all day and you are probably too sensitive handle the emotions of others. Don’t you think it will be too hard on you to be a psychologist?
The gap had closed so tightly around the light shining from my gem that by grade 8 graduation I remember distinctly writing in my yearbook that I wanted to be an advertiser and knowing that this was a lie in my heart but that it would not be judged.
The good news is your gem is always there and no matter what stage you are at in sharing it, it does not leave you. It is always finding ways to emerge and show you the light that it is capable of emitting.
When it came time to choose my educational path the idea of psychology had long left me. I chose science with the thought that it would be easier to get a job with a Science degree than with an English degree (even though I have always loved to write – yes, you can have more than one gem;)).
I did my undergraduate degree in Molecular Biology and Genetics and I completed my Masters of Science and started my PhD. During this time, I was always searching for something else and one day looking on a job posting site I found it. It was a communications job for a research institute and I knew it was my next step. I would be able to use my science degree and get more experience writing. I told my supervisor that I was going to pursue a career in communicating science and that even if I didn’t get this job I was going to quit my PhD and keep trying to follow this thread of writing about science. I got the job and learned everything I could about writing and design while promoting the research of world renowned scientists. I also worked as the hub for large research grant proposals with multiple scientists and began working with one of Canada’s leading scientists. After creating several large grants together, he offered me a job to manage a research program and I have been working with him for more than 10 years.
In my position as program manager we started having weekly meetings which we began to joke were like therapy sessions as my boss would download what was going on for him and I would listen.
The dust was being brushed off of my gem.
I dived into learning more about coaching and how it worked and how I could help make writing easier for him. I continually devoured self help books and found my love of understanding human nature again. In 2016, I stepped further into my true self and asked to be trained as a coach through the Strategic Intervention (Madanes-Robbins) coaching platform and this next levelled our coaching experiences together and I began to expand my coaching practise.
Isn’t it interesting how your gem keeps showing up for you in different places?
With all of these experiences in place, I began coaching those around me and offering to help them move through specific problems more easily. I created a website, got some business cards, and started introducing myself as a coach.
Soon after starting this process, I had an appointment with an ultrasound technician who began to open up to me about the intimate details of several heavy situations in her life.
I was asked to leave the room to change back into my street clothes and then come back for my next set of images. When I returned she said, “I am not sure what just happened here or why I just dumped my whole life story onto you – I don’t usually do that – it’s probably not that professional … sorry about that…”
My mind would usually stir up thoughts like: It doesn’t mean anything that she feels comfortable talking to you. It just happens. It’s no big deal.
But this time, something was different, I said, “It’s ok. You are welcome. I am a coach. This is who I am and what I was meant to do. If you would ever like to talk more, here’s my card.”
My gem was shining brightly. I had stepped into my true self. The self that has been with me all this time, the gem just waiting to be seen and polished.
Let me ask you these important questions:
- Do you feel like your gem requires writing and expressing yourself more fully?
- Are you struggling with the blank page and feeling overwhelmed when you begin a writing project?
- Do you find it hard to maintain momentum in your writing projects even once you get started?
- Do you have a wealth of ideas that you need to organize, express and share to achieve your goals?
- Are you ready to receive powerful guidance, support, and accountability from a coach to write with confidence?
If yes, then the “Write with Confidence” programs may be a match for you.
Let me share with you some of the unique qualities of my private coaching clients:
- They have a clear understanding that writing is how they need to communicate their ideas to serve their community.
- They are feeling excited and overwhelmed by the possibility of sharing their ideas through writing and they are feeling uncertain and confused about how to take action.
- They are committed to improving their approach to their writing projects and taking actions that serve their goals.
- They are ready to find ways to leverage time and resources to prioritize focussing on their writing project and feel confident in sharing their ideas with others.
If this is you, I invite you to email me for a complimentary discovery call at support@melissaEanders.com.
I love to work with men and women who are struggling with their writing projects because as they improve their relationship with writing and learn to move through avoidance and resistance they begin to see what is possible for themselves. It gives me shivers when I see my client’s dedication to making writing a joyous process for themselves lead to realizing that becoming a writer means that they have something important to share. I love to see my clients understand what they want to express, let go of what’s not needed while writing and find ways to connect with and serve their community through writing.
I am curious to hear more about what’s happening with you and to explore whether the work I do makes sense for you.
Let’s connect through a complimentary discovery call, email me at support@melissaEanders.com.